Boy is it difficult trying to keep up with all the teen and young adult terminology. It’s stupid how many times I’ve said something that actually meant something else… that I didn’t mean… because I didn’t know it meant something else.
But can you really even call yourself a parent if you don’t occasionally embarrass yourself and your kid once in a while?
I do my best to try to keep up with the lingo, because young adults are my jam. Plus I have a couple of them living in my house and we like to be on the same page when possible. Words are one of the best ways to do that.
A couple weeks ago my 18 year old dropped a phrase that has lifted me now more times than I can count. It’s become a new constant in my phraseology. I hope you’ve heard this one: “It’s not that deep.”
Dinner is overcooked - it’s not that deep.
I didn’t get flowers for my birthday - not that deep.
My nail broke - it’s really not that deep.
Missed my appointment - it’s not that deep.
The dog ate the homework - not that deep.
There are times when emotions tend to be a little closer to the surface. We get a little more sensitive and nervy. Diets get ruined and anxiety rises, that's life. Telling yourself, this isn’t something to get too stressed about can help you cope in two ways:
Perspective. Is this situation going to matter next week, next month, tomorrow? If not, then don’t give it too much energy now. Is there a simple way to remediate? If yes, then turn your focus to the solution instead of the problem.
Forgiveness. People worth being in your life will forgive you. And you should return the favor. Because we all take turns screwing up and you want to be on the right side of receiving when your turn comes up.
I’m going to miss part of my daughter’s basketball game tonight. It’s not that deep. She knows I love and support her.
The gifts I gave my neighbors weren't stellar this Christmas. Do they even care?
The Cowboys lost to the Bills. It happens.
Children are starving all over the world. There are currently forty-five armed conflicts across the globe. Somewhere, someone is going to lose a loved one today. These are the deeps. I’m all for acknowledging our emotions and letting our feelings matter. I’m a life coach after all. Feelings are my wheelhouse. But in truth, a lot of the time, it's just really not that deep.
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